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Based on the feedback that I received which I do appreciate, I feel the following points should be considered.

1. Based on feedback and recent conversations, I have been told to basically drop everything and to go away.  What keeps me trying to find a solution is that I feel that we should all have common objectives which should ultimately lead us to a solution.  I also feel that this is not rocket science, but when it comes to human nature and our shortcomings, easy solutions may never see the light of day unfortunately.

2. The letter was intended to find a way to start a productive conversation and to find a solution to the issues that we are facing, but the comments I received have indicated that the letter has actually become a source of frustration for some. Family relationships have been deteriorating for some time now and have not been healthy for years, and I have seen too much passive/aggressive behavior among parties indicating that issues are not getting resolved.  This discussion has not caused the division but rather is intended to begin the process to focus on finding a solution.

3. I have given these matters much thought over many years.  I have tried to approach the parties involved on a one-to-one basis in person to discuss things on several occasions.  I  have also been caught in the middle of the disagreements between parities.  Unfortunately, parties have end up wanting to shut down the conversation and end any discussions.  This letter seemed to be the only and best approach at this time to get the parties engaged in some sort of meaningful communication.

4.The feedback I received also suggested that there is some misunderstanding on what I was trying to say regarding "legal action".  For those who misunderstood what I was presenting, I will state what I was saying another way in hopes to eliminate any confusion, and I will do so by presented basic facts.  I am NOT the one who has consulted attorneys to draw up legal documents to enforce agreements made between parties.  So when I referred to legal action, I was referring to the legal action that others have already taken. What I was saying is that we need to execute whatever agreements that have been generated by other parties (not me) and move forward and let the chips fall where they may.  I stated that since documents were not delivered and signed by all parties and that there are current disagreements between the parties that, obviously, there could be some legal issues with executing those agreements.  Again, I must reiterate that I did not see the need to consult an attorney to produce legal documents to enforce agreements. I have taken the approach that personal one-on-one family verbal discussion would suffice for any matters financial and otherwise, and I was not aware that parties were consulting attorneys and writing up documents to enforce agreements among parties. Given that I was legally included on these documents but was never given documents to review, understand, commit to, and sign is probably the most egregious error that was made.

5. Turning the tables - one of the best concepts around that I have learned to apply to sort out things and to understand things better.  I often turn the tables on any scenario or disagreement to try to see things from the other party's perspective and to make sure that I am avoiding hypocrisy and am dealing with situations as honestly as possible.  So I ask the parties involved to turn the tables regarding this matter and explain if and how they would accept the scenario which has been unilaterally imposed on me if the same scenario was imposed on them. And for me, turning the tables means that I would have unilaterally consulted an attorney to take over an estate without consulting other parties who would be affected and would need to be on board with the decision.

6. The paper tiger argument that I am a magnet or catalyst for compounding the parent's financial crisis that we are facing needs to be put to rest once and for all. Things are said over and over and over again which are not true to the point that the become almost irrefutable due to the repetition. So I need to state here again that I am NOT on a list of income tax evaders and being chased down by the federal or state agencies for not paying my personal or business income taxes. I have never not paid my taxes on time, had my wages garnished, had tax liens on placed on properties, or had any other punitive actions taken against me related to anything including taxes or ANY other financial reason. So the argument that I needed to be taken out of the picture completely (disowned) to protect parent's financial assets can not be used from this point forward.

6. Finally, to reduce everything down to the most basic discussion point which seems to be lost when I receive feedback, the main point is that we are dealing with some very serious family concerns with regard to major financial and health matters.  There are critical disagreements between parties who have attempted to make legal agreements regarding how to distribute and manage income and assets, and I will repeat again that I was not involved in these discussions and in making these agreements (but should have been).  I was not even aware of the agreements that were ostensibly made between parties, but during the parent's bankruptcy meetings in 2015/2016, these agreements were disclosed at which point I had visibility into things that were happening since 2011 of which I was not aware. So the can of worms was opened in 2015, and as could have been predicted, we have some major issues to work through now. All of these problems began with excluding parties from important discussions and decisions and taking unilateral actions, and the parties that were involved in making agreements did not reach a meeting of the minds which is evident from the current disagreements among the parties that made the agreements.